When the ship of the marital relationship starts to show difficulties, threatening collapse, generally speaking, the children understand.

Although parents try to disguise, keeping the list of discussions away from them, the couple's discomfort is perceived.

Even babies register the marital psychosphere, which stopped sending vibrations of love and harmony. And, as they do not have the word to manifest, they begin to present sleeping problems, whimpers with no apparently reason, which can evolve to fevers and infections.

Little children observe and, in front of the fast exit of one of the spouses to work, they ask: Are you not going to give mom a kiss?

And, when it is no more than a quick land of lips on her face, they insist: Not like that. Real kiss. Kiss of love.

If there are grandparents or uncles around, not rare they are surprised with questions like: Can I go to your house? Can I stay with you?

This demonstrates the anxiety about their future. If dad and mom split up, where will we go?

And, in the absence of close relatives, the little ones ask the same questions to friends or neighbors, eager to ensure, emotionally, a port that may appear safe.

Finally, when the relationship breaks down and one spouse leaves home, on the swing of emotions, the item becomes irreparable loss.

If teenagers, the reactions are the most diverse, according to the intensity of the affective ties and how they interpret the separation. Some of them feel literally betrayed, others feel abandoned, neglected.

Depending on the reasons for separation, the question becomes even more complicated.

Natural that if the couple finds out that they can no longer live under the same roof, sharing difficulties and affection, seek a way to better living.

However, healthy to look for alternatives, prior to separation. Important to question what made them get together and talk about the possibility of investing in the continuity of the marital contract.

There will be no adjustments to be made, which will allow the maturation of the relationship and the consequent trimming the edges?

Finally, if the path of separation is inevitable, that children are not forgotten. They are the noblest and the most precious part of the inventory, in time to decide who stays with who, under what conditions.

That, in the name of grief, not to create obstacles to the relationship with the children, who did not create major barriers.

Shared custody, defined adjustments by consensus or not, the kids are the jewels that must be preserved for further losses, at that time.

We remember a little 3-year-old girl who, at the exit of her father from home, quickly learned to type his phone number, to say: Dad, I miss you.

And, when he said back: Ok, my love. Tomorrow I will go there to give you a hug, he heard the insistent voice: Dad, I miss you, now!

Who can control the longing, which is the manifestation of love that wishes who you love close to you?

Think about that. And, in a decision so important decision, remember the children, prior to the deliberations of sharing heritage, currency values and all other details.

Kids – treasure of our lives. Think of them!

Spiritist Moment Team.
October 22.2015.