Usually, it is during the youth period that we start looking for someone from the opposite sex to share our dreams with.

        When we finally meet the selected soul, our hearts beat faster, and we do not know how to act. We make up beautiful sentences so to cause an impact, and prevent from being rejected.

        Thus, the relationship begins. Being in love is such a sweet enchantment.

        We soon think about taking the relationship to the next level and begin preparing for marriage.

        We are so certain we will be happy for ever after, that nothing will stop us from carrying our dreams through.

        As the dating period goes by, it is like if we were standing at a pier, looking at the calm sea that awaits for us, and we decide to go onboard the vessel of marriage.

        The vessel slowly leaves the pier, and the first moments are of extreme joy, and we are living the most delightful time of the relationship. Everything is new.

        Though in nowadays matrimonies we can observe the presence of yesterday, represented by souls that love or hate each other, such sweet enchantment does not always last forever.

        As soon as the masks the couple used to conquer one another fall down, living together becomes to taste bitter.

        That is because the Spirits that got together do not truly love each other. This happens to most marriages in our planet.

        Therefore, soon after the vessel got into the sea, and the couple starts to face the first storms, the immediate desire is to get back, but  the pier is too far behind…

        The second reaction is to abandon the vessel, jumping into the sea. And that is what many people do.

        And as both the couple, or at least one of them, have their dreams torn apart, they soon start to realize their soul mate is actually their cuffs, and deeply wish to free themselves. They usually start searching for someone else to look after their needs.

        They soon forget about the first moments of the relationship, when they were happy together, and start looking for other experiences.

        Some people get involved with the first person they meet, just to feel the bitter taste of deception again a little later.

        They try again and again, never finding the person that will consolidate their desires of happiness. They only manage to make other people unhappy and thus make themselves unhappy too, searching for something they cannot find.

        If the person we got married to is not exactly what we expected, let us remember that if our choice was made based on our hearts, without any other interest, we shall keep up with this person so to learn and grow up together.

        Let us also remember there is no such thing as perfection on Earth, and thus our search for the perfect one will be in vain.

        If there were a perfect one, he or she would be looking for another perfect one, just like him or her, but that one certainly would not be one of us.

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        The marriages are programmed since we are born.

        We plan ahead, before being born, if we will get married or not, to whom we will get married and who will our children be.

        Therefore, we have the partner we deserve, and the best one established by the Divine Law.

        Hence, we had better try to love the person we have next to us intensely, as this is the only way to achieve the happiness we so much desire.

Moment Spiritist Team