Can we assess the pain of others? Which will be the bigger?

The one of the mother who cries, next to her daughter, whose leukemic condition irreversibly drags her to death?

The one of who arrived at the airport for the vacation trip abroad and the flight was cancelled? So much time waiting for it, planning, to end up in nothing.

The commitment of months on the credit card for the payment of the hotel, transportation at the place of arrival, tours previously booked. All down the drain.

Yes, you can reschedule the flight, but can what was previously scheduled be reschedule?

Which pain will be grater: that of someone who suffered a serious accident and saw one of their loves die?

Or the one who bought their dream car and it arrived with the wrong specifications? The color is not the exactly the one chosen.

It is impossible to compare the pain of one and the another. First, because we can only assess any pain if we have already experienced it.

Second, because every person has their own peculiar, special way of feeling.

And, finally, because none of us has the real notion of why the person cries or despairs.

Who cries for a lost material good, or received it in a condition that is different from his request, who has a stolen, damaged material good, are they really crying because of it?

Or is their crying showing never-declared intimate pain, abandonment, frustration from so many and multiple other situations?

It is impossible, therefore, to compare, or try to evaluate the pain of the other. It may be easy, you can say, that what they are going through is nothing compared to our difficulty.

When Jesus wept, arriving in Bethany, and Lazarus's sister told Him that if He had arrived in time, his brother would not have died, those who saw Him cry believed that He was weeping for His friend´s death.

However, Jesus wept over people´s misunderstanding. He, the Messiah, the One who taught that no one dies, that life is immortal, had one of his loved ones there, whom He had chosen as His sister, showing despair before death.

This tells us we cannot assess the essence of each other´s tears. Feelings are intimate and we are far from knowing the depth of each one.

Therefore, the order of love is called compassion. Compassion for those who mourn the pain of the absence of the love that left, due to illness or a tragic accident.

Compassion for those who mourn the death of their pet. Compassion for those who cry for the frustrated trip, for the tour that did not work out, for the broken engagement.

All pain deserves respect. Every pain deserves comfort, coziness. All pain is real. Each one feels their drama, according to their own strength, their own way of understanding life.

Let, therefore, our action in the face of the pain of others be that of understanding.  And if we cannot understand the reason for other's reactions, if we believe that the drama is too much for something not so important, let us simply offer our shoulder.

Our shoulder so that the person can lean on, shed their tears, clear their heart.

And let us open our own heart to listen. Let us offer our arms for comfort.

Spiritist Moment Team.
August 31.2022.