Father, did you know that you are my best friend all over the world?

That was what Bernard, five years old, told his father sometimes.

The notion of friendship to a child at this age is very special, and perhaps our understanding as adults can not explain it rationally.

What does he mean as a friend?

Who is always together; ho plays with him; ho is around, close by, when h needs to; someone he trusts, always speaking the truth; anyone who has issues in common.

Parents, who are also friends of their children, have the opportunity to win their love in a unique and precious way.

We emphasize the also, because parents, in their  position, can not be just friends, they have other responsibilities, and there are times when the authority of father, mother, need to excel.

However, the ingredient friendship, in the relation between parents and children is key.

How many teenager’s parents out there today, are desperate because they can not communicate with their children.

They decided, belatedly, to be their friends, have a chat, be confident, who knows ... But they had never before approached, appropriately, so that today they could enjoy this position.

Yeah, who wants to be able to have a good dialogue with your teens, need to earn that trust, you need to have earned this place in their lives early.

And this is what we see scarce in families. We see two worlds apart: the world of children and the adult world.

Children cannot talk about adults issues and adults do not value the affairs of children.

And so we create a valley between them and us. Each one in his world. The dialogues are few. Gradually they will lose interest in talking, to ask, because we disparage the understanding they have of the world.

Our big mistake, as parents and educators.

Children need to join our world, our issues, our problems and solutions.

Obviously, with discretion and care, adapting the language, the explanations and the depth of the topic, we see that we can talk about everything with them today.

And they need to express their opinion, they need to be able to discuss various topics of the day to day. So we should not ignore when they give their opinions, however absurd they may seem.

Friends talk about everything. Are confidants. They are not ashamed to expose their frailties, their doubts and uncertainties.

Friends penetrate into one another world. So, how about, whenever possible, take a brief journey through the world of children, with their heroes, toys with their fantastic imagination?

They like it so much when they see us immersed in their stories, in their play! Let us realize that it will be nice too. Just get carried away. There is so much they can teach us about life...

Creating this dialogue, this opening with them, early on, from the mother's womb, surely we'll be friends for our children as well and thus gain confidence and a safe way to reach their heart.

In order to be the best friend of the world, we need to be there, in their world, and whenever possible, let them know ours.

 Spiritist Moment Team.
July 18, 2013.